Chapter 6: 90% of love success comes from “boyfriend analysis”

Chapter 6: How to get back together with the guy you love

To maximize the chances of reconciliation

This chapter explains how to maximize your chances of recovery. First, let’s read the example of Emily (*fiction based on a true story) who actually succeeded in getting back together.

Emily’s story

Emily looked down at the engagement ring in front of her. A big diamond shines.

My boyfriend, who I live with, went all out and bought it for me.  told him, “I don’t need an engagement ring,” but he gave it to her, saying, “I really want to give it to Emily.”

John’s heart was full as she remembered that day. I can’t help but feel the pride of having been chosen by him as his life partner.

We’ve been dating for two and a half years. In a few months, Yuino and the two families will meet.

The beginning with him

They started dating because he was a college classmate and he approached her passionately. Immediately after they started dating, Emily started living with him at his home where she lived alone.

Emily imposed her ideal of what a lover should be like. “If there’s love, then it’s only natural that you will make my wishes come true.” That’s what I thought.

So for him…

• It’s natural not to let anything interfere with your time to work hard towards your dreams.
• It is natural for people to quit smoking.
• It’s natural to be there for me when I’m worried.

I believed that all of these were proofs of love. However, when Emily doesn’t get his way, she forces him to talk and vents his frustrations.

Because he was gentle and sincere, he continued to patiently respond to Emily’s requests. Still, the two fought many times.

However, even if they fought, they always made up on the same day. Even after they reconciled, he continued to show his love for Emily by hugging her and saying, “I love you so let’s be together forever.”

sudden parting

Emily believed that her future with him would last forever. Even on Christmas night, he looked straight into Emily’s eyes and said,

💬 “I love you. Let’s celebrate together next year and the year after that.”

However, a few days later…

💬 “Emily, I want you to break up with me. I found someone else I like.”

Emily’s mind went blank at the sudden words. I felt as if my feet were giving way, and I was shocked, thinking, “We were so in love just a few days ago…why?”

Why did he leave Emily?

Even if it wasn’t as sudden as Emily’s example, there were many cases where she was dumped by him without being mentally prepared. Only after saying goodbye did Emily reflect on her actions.

I was forcing my “ideal boyfriend image” on him. That he was forcing a discussion. She was spoiled by his love and was only complaining about it.

Even though he wanted to spend time with him, Emily prioritized her own dreams and looked down on him. Emily only lets him come running when she wants to be with him, and when he wants to be with her, she turns him down, saying, “I want to study alone.”

Emily had no idea it was hurting him.

Desperate persuasion doesn’t reach me

Emily turned her head and begged him.

💬 “From now on, I’ll respect you!” 💬 “I’ll fix everything that’s wrong with me, so think again!”

But his resolve was firm.

💬 “It hurt to be rejected by Emily.” 💬 “Recently, Emily didn’t want to spend time with me, and I felt like she wasn’t needed anymore.” 💬 “It’s not Emily’s fault. But I already found someone else I like.”

No matter what I said, his heart remained unmoved.

Emily continued to cling to him for over two weeks. “I don’t want to believe that the memories we spent together for two and a half years could be lost to a woman I just met!”

I asked him to talk to him many times, and every time we met, I blamed him and cried. He even went so far as to threaten suicide.

As a result, there was nothing but fear in his eyes.

💬 “I’m scared…I don’t want to see your face anymore.”

In the end, he completely rejected me.

Emily was in despair. Until Christmas, I believed that this happiness would last forever. I might never even see him again.

💬 “If I could get back together with him, I would do anything…”

The road to reconciliation

If you were Emily, how would you proceed from here to get back together?

In conclusion… Two and a half years after this breakup, he asks Emily to get back together.

And with a marriage certificate.

In the end, why did Emily, who had been feared as “scary”, come to want to get back together with him? Using this story as an example, I will explain how to maximize your chances of getting back together.

Two essential elements for getting back together

The reasons for breaking up vary from person to person, and the details vary. but,There are only two things you need to get back together.

If these two things come together, the chances of reconciliation will greatly increase. On the other hand, if these two things are missing, even if you can get back together,There is a high possibility that we will break up againProbably.

There are two essential elements for recovery:

✅ Make him feel that the reason for the breakup is gone 

✅ Make him say “I miss you” or “I miss you”

I will explain each in detail.

① Make him feel that the reason for the breakup is gone

In order to get back together,It is essential to remove all the reasons that led to the breakup.is. Reconciliation is in love,Starting from minusIt will be. Compared to a love affair that starts from scratch, it takes a lot of effort to recover.

But don’t be pessimistic. What you’ve learned in the previous chapters should help you here.

parable

Just imagine for a moment.

A new woman has joined your workplace. When I looked at his resume, I thought, “This person seems talented, so I want to work with him.” but…

• don’t follow what you taught
• repeat the same mistake
• be late frequently

If this situation continues, what will happen to your expectations? probably,“A talented person who I want to work with”The perception has changed,“People who can’t work”That should be the impression you get.

So how do I get her back?“A talented person who I want to work with”Can you feel that?

✅ Continuing to perform beyond expectations for a long period of time without causing any problems

Same thing as thisThis also applies to love.

I was planted by himbad imageIt is necessary to get rid of this and create an image of a woman who is happy to be with.

What to do for recovery

❶ Identify all the causes of the breakup 

❷ Eliminate the cause and meet again after a cooling period

These two are essential.

Organizing own factors and other factors

cause“Self factors” and “other factors”Write them down in two parts and rearrange them in order of the values ​​he values.

What is the self-factor?

Among the reasons for breaking up with him,areas you can improve onis. You will need to improve all your factors and change over time.

Looking at Emily’s example, the personal factors that influence the values ​​he values ​​are…

• Failure due to imposition of lover image
• I was ignoring his needs (to spend time together)
• forced a discussion
• When we broke up, I held on to her and threatened her.

Completely improved these factors“New Emily”It was essential for me to meet him again.

Importance of cooling period

However, if you suddenly change and get closer to him right after breaking up,adverse effectis. If too much changes in a short period of time, he will“It looks like an act” “It’s just desperate”This will make you even more wary.

Therefore, a cooling period is required.

In Emily’s case,Cooling period of more than half a yearis preferable.

✅ “I was able to learn and change through the breakup.”In order to create a story like this, it will take at least half a year.

The length of the cooling period isIt depends on the reason for the breakup. For example, if you dumped him and he is clingy,No cooling period requiredIt may become.

What are the other factors?

this is,problems you can’t solve on your ownis. for example…

• He was transferred and became long distance.
• he became depressed
• his parents strongly opposed the marriage

These factors are beyond your control alone. However, if the factors are “somewhat unpleasant but tolerable,” there is a possibility of reconciliation.

For example… 💬“It’s tough being transferred long distance…” Even if we broke up for that reason, 💬“I still want to do my best even over long distances.” And his feelings may change.

However, in Emily’s case“There’s a woman he’s fallen in love with”There was a big factor. This factor is beyond Emily’s control.

So what can Emily do?

✅ ① Waiting for the chance that things don’t work out with his new girlfriend 

✅ ② Thoroughly improve your “self-factors” during that period and make sure you don’t miss any opportunities. 

✅ ③ Make him think that Emily is more suitable as his ideal marriage partner than his new girlfriend.

These three are the keys to Emily’s successful recovery.

The reason why Emily was able to get back together after being dumped because she said, “I don’t even want to see your face.”

Emily behaved so badly when we broke up. Despite this, why did he ask to get back together?

Let’s read the story from now on.

Emily’s decision to give up on getting back together

Actually, Emily had given up on getting back together with him. The more I reflected on myself, the more I realized that it would be hopelessly difficult to get back together.

But about him, I sincerely respect you as a person. I was doing it. That’s why,

💬 “I want to be a better version of myself, regardless of him.” 

💬 “Let’s eliminate the bad parts of ourselves.”

That’s what I started thinking.

Cooling off period and opportunity for reunion

First, For several months after breaking up, I thoroughly improved my “self-factor”I concentrated on doing. After about half a year, I told himWork consultationWe met and talked for about 2 hours, and then we broke up.

At this time, that he is doing well with his new girlfriend I learned of this and showed my heartfelt support. Furthermore, Emily too. I got a new boyfriendI reported it to him.

At first, for Emily,“Do you have any intention of getting back together?” He was wary, but he seemed relieved when he heard about Emily’s new love.

Periodic reunions and changing relationships

After that, once every few months, while eatingtalking about each other’s workThe relationship continued. The meal was over in about 2 hours,Don’t go into anything weirdI tried to do so.

From around the third reunion,80% of the talk is about his work.like. heI take pride in my work and love to talk.It was.

Emily enjoyed his stories, laughed at his jokes, and sometimes encouraged him.

Late night calls and snuggle time

From reunionAbout a year and a halfAfter a while, from himUrgent call in the middle of the nighthas entered.

💬 “An acquaintance died in an accident”

He looked very depressed.

Emily immediately

💬 “Shall we take a taxi there now?”

I offered.

He was hesitant at first, but eventuallyI personally picked up Emily by car.I’m here. We spent about 3 hours quietly drinking tea late at night.

He spoke intermittently, and Emily nodded in sympathy.

most of the time,We were just drinking tea in silence.It is.

Emily isHe doesn’t want words, he just wants someone to spend time with him.I knew it was.

I hope he gets more invitations…

After that, we continued to meet every few months, butGradually, the number of invitations from him increased.

and…

💬 “I broke up with my girlfriend.”

he confessed to Emily. After confirming that you do not have a boyfriend, apply for a reunion and propose.That’s what I did.

The reason why Emily was able to get back together

At this time, All the essential elements for reconciliation were met.

✅ I didn’t see him for about half a year, and the worst image I had before we broke up faded. 

✅ We met again after eliminating all “self-factors”. 

✅ After meeting several times, he realized that “the parts of Emily that he didn’t like were gone.” 

✅ He stopped being wary, thinking, “Maybe Emily wants to get back together?” 

✅ I broke up with my “new girlfriend” due to other factors. 

✅ She felt that Emily only saw him as a “friend” and felt lonely and missed him.

What are the items related to the possibility of reconciliation?

To get back togethertwo essential elementsis important, but other than thatItems that affect the possibility of reconciliation to a greater or lesser degreeThere is.

In Emily’s case, those elements alsoeverything was thereIt is.

In the next chapter, we will explain in detail the items related to the possibility of reconciliation using a checklist.

your chances of getting back together

The most common questions asked by women who want to get back together are: 💬“Can we get back together? What are the chances?”

Whether you can recover or not,Not just the relationship between the two of you, but his nature and yours.It also depends on. When I consult with you about getting back together, I thoroughlylove profilingwill do.

• his analysis
• your analysis
• Analysis of the history of their relationship

Based on these, we will consider a scenario for getting back together and provide concrete advice on the best method.

Diagnosis of possibility of reunion

Therefore, it is easy to understand“Diagnosis of possibility of reunion”We have prepared. The good thing about this checklist is that I didn’t really think about it until now.Cause of breakupIt is possible to discover.

Through this diagnosis,Knowing how likely it is that you will get back together will make it easier to plan your future plans.

Example: Discovering the cause of the breakup that you were not aware of

You thought you could get over your long-distance relationship. However, although he did not say it in words,

💬 “There’s no point in dating if you can’t see each other often.”

You may have felt that way.

In this way, you may be able to see factors that led to the breakup that you hadn’t paid attention to before.

How to use diagnosis

If a new cause of the breakup is discovered as a result of this diagnosis,Maximize your chances of getting back together by completely eliminatingcan.

Possibility of getting back together – What is the chance of getting back together with him? ～

Regarding the following 10 items,Options that apply to your relationship with your boyfriend who you want to get back together withSelect and calculate the total score. Based on the total score, the possibility of reconciliation can be diagnosed.

1. How to start a relationship

• a. He seriously approached me and said, “I really want to date him,” and we started dating after he begged me. We were good friends before we started dating, and he asked me out on a date more than 5 times before we started dating. (10 points)
• b. Within three months of meeting each other, he invited me to go on a number of dates, and after going on three or more dates, he confessed to me and we started dating. (9 points)
• c. Within three months of meeting him, he asked me to go on a date, and after one or two dates, he confessed to me and we started dating. (7 points)
• d. You asked her out on dates more often than he did, but you started dating after he confessed to you. (5 points)
• and. At your invitation, we went on a number of dates, you confirmed your intention to date him, and he chose to date you. (3 points)
• f. At your invitation, we went on a number of dates, and you confessed your feelings, and we started dating. (2 points)
• g. You confessed to him, but it was put on hold, and after repeated requests, he accepted the relationship. Or, after having a physical relationship for a certain period of time, the relationship begins by implementing the strategy of “If we can’t become lovers, we won’t see each other again.” (1 point)

2. How to break up

• a. you shook. He held me back, saying he didn’t want to break up with me. (10 points)
• b. you shook. He didn’t really object and accepted the breakup. (9 points)
• c. He asked me to break up with him, but we broke up easily. He cried, hugged me, and seemed reluctant to leave anything behind. (8 points)
• d. When he broke up with her, she held back a little and held on to him, but within a few days she accepted the breakup. He seemed reluctant to leave, saying, “Let’s go out for dinner and contact each other once in a while.” (7 points)
• and. When he broke up with her, she held back a little and held on to him, but within a few days she accepted the breakup. He looked relieved. (5 points)
• f. It took over two weeks for him to break up with me after he kept nagging me. There are no communication blocks or call rejections. (3 points)
• g. It took over two weeks for him to break up with me after he kept nagging me. I took emotional actions such as going to see him without permission, and he blocked my contact methods or refused to accept my calls, and I lost touch with him. (2 points)
• h. He told me goodbye and I kept clinging to him. Furthermore, because he acted emotionally, such as going to see him without permission, he was reported to the police and treated as a stalker. He blocked me and I completely lost contact with him. (1 point)

💬The sooner you break up, the better it will be for you to get back together, and the more you hold on to and fight, the worse it will be.

3. Reason for breaking up

• a. They were in love until just before, but they broke up after a fight. I don’t think I’ve found anyone else I like. (10 points)
• b. They were in love until just before, but now he has found someone he likes. (10 points)
• c. There is no particular reason for the breakup, and no clear cause can be found. (9 points)
• d. Although it is not a value that he holds dear, she repeatedly repeats actions that fall under the category of “things I don’t like to be done to,” which wears him down. (Example: Making mistakes, etc.) (7 points)
• and. I had done some “unpleasant things” that were directly related to the values ​​he held dear, which caused him to lose his temper. (5 points)
• f. He started to find being with you boring and couldn’t continue the relationship. (4 points)
• g. The reason why he decides that he cannot date or marry you is due to factors that are difficult to resolve. (Example: physical compatibility, long distance, occupation, religion, etc.) (3 points)
• h. The reason is due to unsolvable factors that make him feel strongly that he will never be able to date or marry you. (Example: race, nationality, parents, etc.) (2 points)
• i. You did something that he would never forgive. (1 point)

➡ If multiple reasons for the breakup apply, choose the one with the highest score.

4. How long were we friends?

• a. More than 5 years. (10 points)
• b. More than 3 years. (9 points)
• c. More than 2 years. (8 points)
• d. More than 1 and a half years. (7 points)
• and. More than 1 year. (5 points)
• f. Over 6 months. (3 points)
• g. Over 4 months. (2 points)
• h. Less than 3 months. (1 point)

💡 The standard is not the period of dating, but the period of “friendship” (= the period when he wanted to meet you, saw you at least twice a month, and had regular physical contact). In other words,How long has he considered your relationship to be “friends”?refers to.

5. Frequency and content of fights

• a. There were no fights, and he almost never felt uncomfortable. (10 points)
• b. About once every three months, a fight or something that made him feel uncomfortable would happen. Or, you have behaved badly toward him (e.g., crying, insulting, yelling, denying his important values, etc.) at least once. (8 points)
• c. About once every two months, we would get into fights or do something that made him uncomfortable. Or you behaved badly towards him on more than one occasion. (6 points)
• d. About once a month, we would get into fights or do something that made him uncomfortable. Or you behaved badly towards him three or more times. (4 points)
• and. About once every two weeks, or once every two dates, we would get into fights or something that made him uncomfortable. Or you behaved badly towards him on 4 or more occasions. (2 points)
• f. Almost every time there was a fight or something that made him uncomfortable. Or you behaved badly towards him on more than 5 occasions. (1 point)

💡 Please look back on the past six months. Not just fights,Consider how many times you’ve ignored him, complained, gotten angry, or gotten fed up.

6. His love nature

• a. I want to always be in love. Or, love is essential in life. I almost never run out of girlfriends or dates. (10 points)
• b. Love is a high priority, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that women will be able to devote themselves to work and hobbies. (8 points)
• c. Work and hobbies are given a slightly higher priority. The period without a girlfriend or date partner is short. (5 points)
• d. Her work and hobbies are given high priority, and her playmates are mostly male friends. There are long periods without a girlfriend or a date. (3 points)
• and. Work and hobbies are given high priority. I like spending time alone, and many of my hobbies can be completed alone. I meet up with friends when they invite me, but I don’t mind if I don’t. There are long periods without a girlfriend or a date. (2 points)
• f. I prioritize work and hobbies, and I like being alone. People have negative images of love, such as being “troublesome” and “tiring.” (1 point)

💡 The higher his love temperament, the easier it will be to get back together, and the lower it is, the harder it will be.

7. His seriousness about marriage and sense of responsibility

• a. I tend to make decisions based on my momentum, mood, and emotions at the time. I’m not good at thinking about the future. I get bored easily because my hobbies and things I’m addicted to change one after another. Most of his relationships with women are short-lived, but he has experience of getting back together. At the beginning of their relationship, they were positive about marriage. (10 points)
• b. I tend to make decisions based on my momentum, mood, and emotions at the time. I’m not good at thinking about the future. I get bored easily because my hobbies and things I’m addicted to change one after another. Most of his relationships with women are short-lived, but he has experience of getting back together. He has declared that he has no desire to get married. (9 points)
• c. Although he doesn’t seem to be a moody person, he often makes decisions based on his emotions. She seems to be thinking that marriage will be a while away. (7 points)
• d. I’m the type of person who thinks before making a move. She seems to be thinking that marriage will be a while away. (5 points)
• e. The type who makes decisions after careful consideration. I have a desire to get married, but I don’t want to do it right away. I think it’s only natural to start dating with an eye toward marriage. (2 points)
• f. The type who is cautious about everything. If I can’t think of marriage, I don’t want to start dating. (1 point)

💡 A sense of responsibility at work and a sense of responsibility in love are completely different things.

8. His popularity

• a. I’m not popular. Your only dating experience. (10 points)
• b. A little unpopular. The number of people in a relationship is 2 or less. (8 points)
• c. Somewhat unpopular. However, he may not be aware of it himself, or there are comments and posts on SNS that seem to make him think that he is popular. (5 points)
• d. He is often successful in making the women he targets fall in love with him. (3 points)
• e. Be popular. Sometimes he confesses to me, and I can make the woman I’m targeting fall in love with me. (1 point)

💡 Please make a comprehensive judgment based on appearance, work, personality, age, income, communication skills, environment in which you can meet women, etc.

9. Your rarity to him

• a. He has been told by at least three people that he will never meet a woman like you (in terms of looks, income, assets, age, job, etc.). Also, you are filling a niche and important need for him that no other woman can meet. (10 points)
• b. He really likes you. He has been told by more than one person, “It would be difficult to date a woman like you (in appearance, income, assets, age, job, etc.).” Also, you are filling a niche and important need for him that no other woman can meet. (8 points)
• c. It seems likely that he will be able to find and date a woman like you in the future (appearance, income, assets, age, job, etc.). Also, you are filling a niche and important need for him that no other woman can meet. (5 points)
• d. He doesn’t really like you. However, the probability of dating a woman you like equally is low. (3 points)
• e. He doesn’t really like you. He could easily date a woman he likes as well. (2 points)
• f. It seems likely that he will date a woman he likes more than you. (1 point)

💡 You can increase your chances of getting back together by raising your rarity level higher than when you first met before meeting again.

10. His sexual desire and physical compatibility

• a. His sexual desire is normal (we have physical relations at least 3 times a month, or every time we meet). He goes all the way. He meets you when he wants, and you almost never refuse him. (10 points)
• b. He responds when you ask, but you don’t ask from him. Or the frequency of physical contact less than once in every three dates. Or they don’t seem to place importance on physical compatibility. (8 points)
• c. He has a normal sexual desire. He goes all the way. However, about once in two times, I am unable to meet him when he asks for some reason (long distance, work, health, etc.). (6 points)
• d. He has a strong sexual desire (he asks for it more than once every time we meet). He goes all the way. However, about once in two times, I am unable to meet him when he asks for some reason (long distance, work, health, etc.). (4 points)
• e. His sexual desire is strong. They tend to not respond to each other, or for some reason (long distance, work, health, etc.), it’s hard to meet up with them. (2 points)
• f. His sexual desire is strong. You kept rejecting him or saying no to him, saying things like “it hurts” or “I’m scared of getting pregnant,” and the number of times since then has decreased significantly. Or it became a reply. Or have never had a physical relationship. (1 point)

💡 It’s okay to refuse his request when you’re on your period, as it doesn’t count. Please choose the one that applies most to you.

Diagnosis result

◆People with 95-100 points

The chance of reconciliation is 90%. The possibility of getting back together is huge!

◆People with 81-94 points

The chance of getting back together is 75-89%. The possibility of getting back together is huge!

◆People with 71-80 points

The chance of getting back together is 60-75%. There is a high possibility of reconciliation. You can look forward to it!

◆People with 61-70 points

The chance of getting back together is 50-59%. There is a good chance that you can get back together!

◆People with 51-60 points

The chance of getting back together is 40-49%. The chance of reconciliation is 50-50. With long-term commitment, you can increase your chances now.

◆People with 41-50 points

The chance of getting back together is 30-39%. The chance of reconciliation is somewhat low. You can increase your chances by improving the areas where you have low points.

◆People with 31-40 points

The chance of getting back together is 20-29%. The possibility of reconciliation is low. If he contacts you, your chances of getting back together will increase. Until then, let’s reduce our own factors and wait.

◆People with 21-30 points

The chance of getting back together is 10-19%. The chances of reconciliation are very low. The possibility of getting back together is fluid, so eliminate the self-factor and check again in six months.

◆People with 10-20 points

The chance of getting back together is 0-9%. Unfortunately, there is almost no chance of reconciliation. I encourage you to look to others. However, if his circumstances change, the chances of getting back together may increase.

The “reason for breaking up” is a lie! ? Common traps and how to deal with them

“I’m busy with work” or “I’m not good at ____” – Have you ever been in a situation where you had to think about breaking up with your boyfriend?

However, even though she was concerned about his busy schedule and improved on his weak points, his attitude remained cold…

In fact, the “reason for breaking up” he says may not be the real reason. because,He himself is not aware of the change in his feelings. Because there are many things.

So what is the reason for his coldness? And how can relationships be improved?

What makes him cold?

Often,A state in which you are too close to him than “the distance he wants from you”.

for example…

• I continue to see him more often than he wants to see me.
• He feels like he needs more alone time, but you’re actively trying to get involved.

In this way, rather than the sense of distance he desires,If you get too close, he feels 💬 “It’s heavy…” 💬 “I want to distance myself…” and subconsciously searches for a plausible reason.

and,“I don’t want to be the bad guy who can’t respond to her feelings.” This mentality works, and in order to justify themselves, they cite her flaws or their own circumstances as reasons.

For example… 💬 “I want to spend more time studying for the qualification exam” 💬 “Actually, I wasn’t good at her 〇〇.”

However, he is neither a psychology professional nor a love professional. the real reason“It wasn’t her fault, it was just a distance issue.” They don’t realize that.

As a result, he“She must be the reason why the love temperature has dropped.” I misunderstand…

change in his feelings

What he feels is: 💬 “I don’t feel like seeing you lately.” 💬 “I feel like I’m not having as much fun as before.” 💬 “Maybe I need some alone time these days.”

this “Unexplained decrease in love temperature” On the other hand, he jumps to the conclusion that 💬 “Does that mean you’ve grown cold?” 💬 “Maybe he doesn’t like you anymore…” and in the worst case scenario.“I want to break up” That’s what I start to think.

What should I do?

The important thing here is thatDon’t just take his word for it!

the change in his feelingsShe just believes that the cause of the drop in love temperature is her own. There is a high possibility that

💡 It’s not uncommon for his romance to heat up again after some distance. By stepping away from him for a while, your relationship will improve!

5 rules of Amy-style Masseage

When you feel like he’s getting colder, or when you think he’s annoying. You may be closer than he wants.

In such a case, to improve the relationship“Amy style massage 5 rules” I will tell you!

Rule 1: Don’t contact me. only respond to calls from him

💡 “You only interact when he wants to contact you.” That’s how I felt about youDepression/heaviness You can wipe it out!

💡 However, if you haven’t heard from him for more than 10 days, it’s OK to send him a short massage to kindly ask how he’s doing.

Rule 2: Do not use the Hatena mark (“?”)

💬 Massage with “?” means “I have to reply…”sense of duty It will give rise to Avoid asking questions as much as possible to take the pressure off him!

Rule 3: Only tell your story when he asks.

💡 It’s important to talk to him when he wants to know more about her! Only tell your story when he asks you a question.

Rule 4: Don’t invite people to meet you

💡 The key is to create a situation where he “meets you because he wants to”! By allowing him to meet on his own terms, you will maintain an appropriate sense of distance.

Rule 5: Reply with something that will warm his heart.

💡 Make sure that he feels this way when he sees your massage. ✅ “I’m happy!” ✅ “It’s fun!” ✅ “Interesting!” ✅ “You understand me” ✅ “It’s soothing…”

💡 People are attracted to things that make them feel warm and want to respond!

this 5 rules However, this is the key to raising his love temperature and restoring the relationship. “Five Rules for Amy-style Messages” Use this to improve your relationship with him!

💡 This is effective not only when you are in a relationship, but also when you have unrequited love. 

💡 Basically the same rules apply to phone calls. 

💡However, this does not apply if you leave him alone for too long and the relationship deteriorates.