Have you ever asked your partner to change in order to fulfill your own needs in a romantic relationship? If so, what was the outcome?

In the past, I frequently asked my partner in a romantic relationship to “do this more” or “be able to do that.” Those requests might have stemmed from my own insecurities and a desire to fulfill my emotions. For example, I would ask him to express his feelings more clearly or to meet me every weekend, prioritizing my own ideals over other considerations.

At first, my partner tried to meet those expectations, but over time, they became a significant burden for him. Eventually, our relationship began to deteriorate. One day, he told me, “I can no longer be myself,” and we ended the relationship.

Afterward, I reflected deeply on my actions and came to an important realization. I learned the value of accepting my partner as he is, rather than trying to change him. Everyone has their own values and pace, and demanding them to change reflects a lack of consideration for their individuality.

Building on this experience, I made an effort in my next relationship to avoid placing excessive expectations on my partner and instead focused on fulfilling myself internally. As a result, I found that I was able to establish a healthier and more stable relationship.