The thought, “Next time, I want to be with someone like this,” comes from learning through past romantic experiences and leads to changes in your values and emotional needs. Let me explain further below.
1: Past experiences shape future choices.
The good and bad aspects of past romantic relationships help establish the criteria for selecting a new partner. For example, if you found comfort in a previous partner’s kindness, you might seek that characteristic in your next relationship. Conversely, if you felt sadness due to excessive freedom in the relationship, you might prefer a closer emotional connection with your next partner.
2: Injuries from past romantic relationships influence your choices.
If you have experienced emotional pain in the past, you might decide, “I will never be with someone of the same type again.” Such decisions are a natural reaction to protect yourself.
3: Your needs change.
Humans adjust their requirements based on their environment and age. If you sought an exciting, stimulating romantic relationship when you were young, you might later prioritize comfort and stability. Through this shift, you begin to form a clear image of “I want to be with someone like this next time.”
4: Ideal reflection
You might think, “If I had been with someone like this, I could have been happier than now.” Such thoughts can shape the criteria for selecting an ideal partner in the future.
5: Choosing new things as a sign of growth
By gaining romantic experience, you become aware of your own growth through failures and successes. The desire to “build a better relationship next time” becomes the very proof of that growth.
The thought, “Next time I want to be with someone like this,” comes from learning through past romantic experiences. It reflects your desire to make better choices than in the past.